Without Stable Housing, Survivors Are at Greater Risk of Returning to Their Abusers
While emergency shelters can offer a critical lifeline, numerous obstacles stand in the way of survivors finding or keeping long-term, safe, and affordable housing. Many survivors have endured financial abuse—stripped of access to money, barred from employment, or left with damaged credit due to the actions of their abuser.
There is a clear and undeniable link between domestic violence, homelessness, and housing insecurity. Time and again, survivors cite the lack of safe, stable housing as a major challenge when attempting to leave or stay away from an abusive environment.
Domestic violence remains one of the top drivers of homelessness, particularly for women and children. Studies show that over 90% of women experiencing homelessness have endured severe physical or sexual abuse, and 63% report being survivors of domestic or sexual violence.
Survivors often face additional hurdles such as housing discrimination due to the behavior of their abuser, and their safety concerns may limit their housing options. Moreover, many housing support systems unintentionally create barriers that prevent survivors from accessing the help they need.
JOIN US IN ENVISIONING A FUTURE THAT PRIORITIZES TRANSITIONAL HOUSING FOR SURVIVORS.
Let’s not accept outdated systems that no longer serve those most in need. The time for change is now. Let’s build a new model for safety, healing, and hope.
BY: TERRY B. HUGHEY
Why Do Victims Return to Abusive Relationships?
As a survivor of both domestic violence and sexual assault—someone who remained in an abusive relationship for years—I want to share what I believe are the top five reasons why many victims return to their abusers, often more than once.
I’m not a licensed therapist, psychologist, or counselor. I speak solely from my lived experience and the countless conversations I’ve had with other survivors along the way. I’ve walked that road myself—returning multiple times before finally breaking free. What I share here is not clinical, but it is real.
Before diving into the reasons, it's important to understand that abuse affects people from all walks of life. Survivors aren’t all living in poverty or relying on public assistance. Some grew up in violent homes—others didn’t. Many survivors are women, but more men are affected than most people realize. Children and elders, too, often suffer in silence.
What we all have in common at the beginning is this: we don’t always recognize what we’re experiencing as abuse. We’re unfamiliar with the patterns and cycles of manipulation, control, and harm. And by the time we do, we’re already deeply entangled—physically, emotionally, and often financially.
Here are five of the most common reasons survivors return to their abusers:
Understanding the “why” is the first step toward empathy. And empathy opens the door to change. Let’s keep listening, learning, and working to break the cycle.
Every Survivor Deserves Support—No Exceptions
No matter your situation or how many times you’ve tried to leave, you deserve to be heard, supported, and respected in your journey. Every survivor has the right to make their own choices and reclaim control over their life—on their terms, in their time.
You are not alone.
There is help available.
And the RUFS Foundation is here to walk alongside you every step of the way.
Whether you’re seeking safety, healing, or a fresh start—we’re here to help you find the resources, support, and strength you need to rise.
BY: CHERYL M. HUGHEY
Sexual Violence Knows No Boundaries—And Neither Do We
At RUFS Foundation, we believe that every survivor—no matter their race, gender, orientation, or identity—deserves compassion, advocacy, and support.
Sexual violence affects people from all walks of life. It does not discriminate—and neither do we.
These numbers represent real people—mothers, sons, colleagues, neighbors. Survivors are everywhere. And they deserve to be seen, believed, and supported.
RUFS Foundation stands with survivors. Always.
We’re here to help you reclaim your power and walk with you toward healing and hope.
We’re Committed to Equipping Parents—Because Children Deserve Protection
At RUFS Foundation, we believe that awareness is prevention.
We are committed to educating parents, caregivers, and communities so they can recognize the warning signs of abuse and respond with love, support, and immediate action.
Sexual abuse can begin early—and in silence. Many children are too afraid or confused to speak out. That’s why it’s critical that adults know what to look for, and how to respond in a way that validates and protects the child.
These numbers are not just statistics—they’re stories waiting to be heard, and lives waiting to be protected.
We’re here to break the silence.
We’re here to empower families with knowledge.
And most importantly, we’re here to protect our children.
RUFS Foundation will help you recognize the signs. We’ll teach you how to respond. Together, we can be the safe space our children need.
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